Archive for March, 2010
Human experiences teach us:
- That the people who hurt us often and hurt us the most are people who are so close to us. That is why there is a song entitled, “Why do we always hurt the one we love?”
- That the people we find the hardest to forgive are also people who are so close to us. People as such we call them traitors and ungrateful. It has been said that one’s best friends is one’s worst enemies.
- That the people who are deeply hurt or aggrieved have the tendency to self-pity, anger, hatred, resentment and revenge. Given all these, it is hard to forgive, much harder, to forgive constantly. Indeed Alexander Pope is correct when he said, “To err is human, to forgive is divine.”
If your heart is filled with anger, hatred and revenge and you find it hard to forgive those who hurt or offended you, then, the message of today’s Gospel is for you: love the repentant sinner by forgiving him while hate the sin; hope for repentance of sinner and celebrate the redemption of even one sinner.
Going back to the parable we just heard, the younger son’s request was impudent and disrespectful. Typically, sons received their inheritance on the death of their father. Sometimes a father might decide to distribute part or all of the inheritance early so that he might retire, but the initiative is the father’s—not the son’s. In the event that a son received his inheritance prior to the father’s death, the son was expected to stay at home to provide for his parents in their old age. That was part of what it meant to “honor your father and your mother, so that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you” (Exod 20:12).
This younger son was guilty of: (1) assuming the initiative that belonged to his father (2) treating his father as if he were dead (3) ignoring his obligation to his parents in their old age and (4) breaking the family relationship by leaving. Such conduct was shameful in that culture. A father would feel ashamed to have raised such a son. Neighbors would raise their eyebrows and thank God not to have such sons themselves.
Despite of what had happened the father has forgiven his repentant impudent and disrespectful son who deeply offended and hurt him. The father in the parable represents God the Father who is “gracious and merciful, slow to anger, rich in kindness, and relenting in punishment” (Jl 2:12-13) while the prodigal son represents the worst sinner who returns to the Father with contrite and humble spirit. Just as God the Father has forgiven us in Christ when were sinners and when we were still His enemies let us also forgive those who has hurt and offended us.
Why do we need to forgive?
- “The only way to peace is forgiveness. To accept and give forgiveness makes possible a new quality of rapport between men, interrupts the spiral of hatred and revenge and breaks the chains of evil which bind the heart of rivals” (Pope John Paul II, Homily at Mass for First Sunday of Lent, “Day of Pardon”, March 12, 2000 and Angelus Message, March 12, 2000).
- “Forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the high cost of hatred, and the waste of energy” (E. C. McKenzie).
- Forgiveness of one another is a condition for authentic worship of the Father. “If you bring your gift to the altar, and there recall that your brother has anything against you, leave your gift there at the altar, go first and be reconciled with your brother, and then come and offer your gift” (Mt. 5:23-24; cf. 6:14-15; Mk 11:25; CCC 2841; cf. CFC 2187).
- Man must forgive in order to be forgiven by God. The parable is a comment upon the fifth petition of the Lord’s prayer, “Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive them that trespass against us” (Mt 6:12). Those, and those only, may expect to be forgiven of God, who forgive their brethren “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father also will forgive you; but if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will you Father forgive your trespasses” (Mt 6:14, 15). As James had it, “For judgment is without mercy to one who has shown no mercy” (James 2:13).
“Because you are God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with heartfelt mercy, with kindness, humility, meekness and patience. Bear with one another; forgive whatever grievances you have against one another. Forgive as God has forgiven you in Christ” (Col 3:12f). Forgive and “so be perfect, just as your heavenly Father is perfect ” (Mt 5: 44-48).
Story of Walter
By FR. BEL R. SAN LUIS, SVD
March 14, 2010, 11:58am
Once there was a man named Walter. He owned a littele variety store and, for some years in his own small way, he extended credit to poor people, helping them to get started in life. His town mates had all praises for the benevolent man.
Because of his generosity, the good Lord rewarded him. One day, Walter struck it rich when he won the lotto.
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With all his overflowing wealth, he gave up his little business and bought a palatial house in an upscale subdivision. He enjoyed all the material comforts and amenities in life. Catapulted to the top of the social ladder, his lifestyle changed and sadly forgot all about his simple spirit and, charitable works of helping the poor. He had himself revitalized and rejuvenated. (Dunno if he went to Dr. Belo or Dr. Calayan).
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The new Walter went on good times, spending money freely. He met a beautiful young woman and asked her for a date. But that evening before they could go out, a thunderstorm came up.
While crossing the street to meet his date, Walter was struck by a lightning bolt and he died instantly.
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In the next life, Walter lamented, “After all those years of hard work, I was just trying to enjoy myself a little, Lord. Why did you do that to me?” And God said to him, “Oh, was that you Walter? I didn’t recognize you!”
Walter was so rejuvenated, so changed not only in looks but also his lifestyle and values that God could not recognize him.
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LESSON. The Lord is surely not against getting rich or rejuvenating oneself. Nor is God against enjoying life now and then. Rather it’s a reminder about the danger of wealth. In the case of Walter, he forgot his original goodness of helping people.
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Ask yourself: What’s my attitude towards money? Am I so preoccupied with it that I have no more time for God, say, in prayer? Am I so obsessed that I have to cheat or do immoral ways, like operating illegal gambling, trafficking in dangerous drugs or stealing?
Am I so attached to my possessions that I have become selfish and insensitive to the plight of the poor around me?
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ACTION: In this Lenten season, I’ll show that money is not my God by allotting time for spiritual matters and doing more acts of charity.
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THE LIGHTER SIDE. St. Peter to new arrival at Heaven’s gate: And what good deeds did you do during your lifetime?
New applicant: Well, I once gave an old beggar a R10. St. Peter: Anything else? New applicant: I’m afraid no more St. Peter: Well, here’s your R10 back – you can go to Hell!
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Young boy praying in church: Give us this day our Daily Bread… with ham, egg and cheese, French fries, salad on the side. Priest passing by: Iho, are you praying or ordering?
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7 LAST WORDS. The SVD Social Communications will present the “7 Last Words” on Good Friday, April 2, 2010 from 12-3 p.m. over ABS-CBN.
We sent out letters soliciting donations and advertisements to help us defray the costs of TV airtime and production. May we have your generous response?
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Please send your help payable to Mission Communications Foundation, Inc. at: Christ the King Seminary, 1101 E. Rodriguez Blvd., 1099 Quezon City. For inquiries, call MCFI at Christ the King Seminary (cf. tel. directory) or e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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GOD BLESS – the latest donors: Dr. Montano Ramos Family; Lilian Villanueva; Dr. Thelma Clemente; Dr. Buena Alegre; Gene Liangco; Nely Uy; Liwanag Deveza; Dr. Aurelia Leus; Joey Uy; Amy Ty; Warren Family; Susie Lañada-Papa; Janet Chua; Anonymous.
MANILA, Philippines—Do you know why the government recently granted discounts to senior citizens? Because someone pointed out that, when it comes to food purchases, senior citizens are prohibited from eating many kinds of food anyway; on transportation, they can’t use it much anyway; on groceries, they can’t carry much of those anyway; on movies, they have bad eyes anyway; and on hospitals, they don’t have much time left anyway.
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In contrast, in today’s Gospel about the prodigal son (Lk. 15, 1-3; 11-32), the Father’s love and forgiveness are without conditions and “anyways.” The loving Father’s generosity is gracious, total and unconditional. Many of us claim to give and forgive, but much of our giving and forgiving is often so conditional and self-serving.
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Did you notice how all of a sudden, politicians seeking elective positions have become so giving and accommodating in terms of time, money and truckloads of promises? But this is only for a while, because once they are elected, they will be so busy in getting the return of their investment. They are giving now in order that they will get more later.
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God’s love for us is beyond transactional. God gives us more than we deserve, and He gets from us much less than He deserves. God is generous and merciful, while we are wanting yet exacting. In so far as we strive to be generous, and go beyond justice toward mercy, we too become like God.
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In the end, it is God’s mercy that will save us. Our so-called merits will not be enough to transact for our salvation. That is why, in humility, every day we earnestly and sincerely pray: “Lord, I am a sinner, have mercy, have pity on me.”
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Humanly speaking, we give and love “if . . .” But God loves us “even if . . .” Our loving, giving and forgiving are very conditional. As we continue to receive so much unconditional love from God, may we too learn to become less transactional and more unconditional in our loving, giving and forgiving.
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I am a grateful recipient of God’s unconditional love. I know and believe that I am loved not so much because of, but in spite of me. How many times have I disobeyed God, yet He continues to manifest His constant love! Presumptuous? I say it again: It is better to be presumptuous of God’s love than to doubt God’s love. If you have not experienced what it is like to sin and be forgiven, to be broken and be made whole again, then, you have not really experienced God’s tremendous love.
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We insult God when we sin. We insult Him more if we doubt that He loves us and forgives us again and again. God’s love and forgiveness are greater and broader than we can imagine. Let us not limit God’s love. Instead, let us celebrate His goodness and love.
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Remember me writing some Sundays ago about exit from this world and entrance into eternity? My very good friends lawyer Manuel and Norma Pastrana had a sudden exit from this world, when their house in Cebu City was gutted by fire at dawn last Thursday, March 11. It was such a shock to me. Indeed, we don’t know the time nor the hour. The Season of Lent reminds us again and again that we are dust and to dust we will return.
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When tragedy strikes, there are many things we cannot explain or understand. At such moments, all we need to do is to accept, surrender, trust and hold on to God’s master plan, and believe in His unconditional love. “Lord, I don’t understand but I believe you have a plan.”
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I was in Roxas City recently to celebrate the annual Memorial Mass for my classmate Fr. Antonio Barriatos, SVD who died as a missionary in Paraguay in 1994. I do this in gratitude to his family who offered Father Tony for the missions with no ifs and no buts. I salute the many countless and faceless generous people around us who live out their faith in very simple but concrete ways.
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We will be in Alaminos City, Pangasinan for a Healing Mass at the St. Joseph Cathedral on Wednesday, March 17, 2010. Together with the people and with Bishop Marlo Peralta, DD, Bishop of Alaminos, we will pray for the healing of Pangasinan and our motherland especially for the coming May elections. And, we will also pray for rain, much needed rain to come upon us, soon.
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Please remember one often unnoticed but significant character in the Parable of the Prodigal Son—the fattened calf! Why, what did it do? What was its fault that it had to be slaughtered? It just happened to be there when the prodigal son came home. Oh well, if you experience being feasted upon, or being blamed, or misjudged, console yourself with the thought it all happened once to an innocent fattened calf.
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A moment with the Lord:
Lord, help me to love like you, with no “ifs” and no “buts.” Amen.
Today’s Gospel parable has deep meaning and no word wasted. It has a message that challenges and hits the bull’s eye. Exalt yourself and you will be humbled. Humble yourself and you will be exalted.
The parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector is terribly contemporary, for it raises the shadow of two constant temptations.
The first temptation is thinking that we alone save our souls. Jesus’ parable is addressed to all who attribute to themselves as pleasing to God, all who lift themselves to heaven by their own bootstraps. It’s true we cannot be saved unless we want to, but even that wanting, that very desire, is God’s grace to us. It is Jesus who saves.
Now don’t misunderstand the parable. God will not mind if your prayer of thanksgiving sounds in part like the Pharisee’s: “O God, I thank you for all I am. I have such a high IQ. In looks I score 10. I never miss Mass on Sundays (despite your boring preachers), haven’t broken any commandment this year. I work for the victims of wars, and earthquakes, of typhoons and floods. I helped the poor and the lonely, the sick, the “sungit” and “pangit.” I even support the parish priest with all kinds of gifts.”
Not a bad prayer, but useless unless you add, day in and day out, “O God, be merciful to me, sinner that I am.” In your prayer of thanksgiving thank God for His mercy, from the birth of His Son in a stable, through his death on a cross, to his birth in your heart. Without that mercy, without God’s constant forgiveness, all your work would be worthless.
The second temptation is less subtle, a danger to everyday living — comparing oneself with others. Throughout history men and women have fallen prey in some measure to the Pharisee’s fault: “I am not like the rest of mankind.” Early Christians looked down on the Jews “rejected by God,” Crusaders on infidels they would massacre. Protestants and Catholics despised one another. The upper educated class looks down on the bakya crowd. And so on across the spectrum of human living.
Perhaps we can raise our prayer of thanksgiving to a high Christian level: “O God, I thank you that I am like the rest of humankind. I thank you that like everyone else, I too have been shaped in your image, with a mind to know and a heart to love. I thank you that, like everyone else, I too was embraced by the crucified arms of your Son. I too have him for a brother. I thank you that you judge me, like everyone else, not by my brains or looks, my clothes, the figures of my bank account, the size of my house and the model of my car, but by the love that is your gift to me, by the way I share the passion of your Christ. I thank you that, for all our thousand differences, I am remarkably like the people all around me.”
Luke 18:12 I fast twice in the week, I give tithes of all that I possess
“This parable is not about hypocrisy; it’s about pride. By objective human standards, in terms of the number and frequency of rules kept, the Pharisee really was the more righteous of the two individuals! Yet according to the Savior: ‘I tell you, this man [the publican] went down to his house justified rather than the other [the Pharisee]: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.’ (V. 14.)
“I fear that, like the Pharisee in the parable, some of us who are relatively good at keeping the rules also trust in ourselves that we are righteous. Such are inordinately proud of their own goodness; they exalt themselves. But whenever we are proud of how good we are instead of being humbled by how imperfect we are (cf. “2 Ne. 4:17″2 Ne. 4:18″2 Ne. 4:192 Ne. 4:17-19), our hearts are not broken, nor are our spirits contrite.
Robert E. Wells
“If we are to increase in favor with God, we must resolve to overcome as much as possible the sin of pride. President Benson maintained that pride is the universal sin (Ensign, May 1989, p. 6). That means that every one of us, to one degree or another, suffers from the problem and must do all in our power to overcome its influence. As human beings, we have a remarkable capacity to fall under the influence of pride—even when we think we are in the safest of religious settings.
“I remember reading about the Sunday School teacher who taught her class that great scriptural lesson on the proud Pharisee who thanked the Lord that he was not a sinner like the publican, a penitent sinner who prayed for forgiveness. Jesus said the publican was more justified than the Pharisee (see Luke 18:9–14). The Sunday School teacher then suggested to her class that they should all thank God that they were not like that Pharisee! (See Robert J. McCracken, What Is Sin? What Is Virtue? New York: Harper and Row, 1966, p. 14.)
“Another story relates that a Carthusian monk, explaining to an inquirer about the distinctive features of his monastic order, said: ‘When it comes to good works, we don’t match the Benedictines; as to preaching, we are not in a class with the Dominicans; the Jesuits are away ahead of us in learning; but in the matter of humility, we’re tops’ (ibid., p. 14).” (“Resolutions,” Ensign, Dec. 1994, 65)
Joe J. Christensen
Luke 18:13 the publican…smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner
“How do you pray? Like publicans or arrogant officials? The Pharisee recounted to the Lord his many virtues. He was not an extortioner, unjust, an adulterer like the publican or other men. He fasted twice a week and tithed possessions. But the publican standing humbly in the background ‘would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God, be merciful to me a sinner.’ (Luke 18:13Luke 18:13.)
“In your secret prayers do you beat your breast and present yourself with your soul bared, or do you dress yourself in fancy coverings and pressure God to see your virtues? Do you emphasize your goodness and cover your sins with a blanket of pretense? Or do you plead for mercy at the hands of Kind Providence?
“Do you get answers to your prayers? If not, perhaps you did not pay the price. Do you offer a few trite words and worn-out phrases, or do you talk intimately to the Lord? Do you pray occasionally when you should be praying regularly, often, constantly? Do you offer pennies to pay heavy debts when, you should give dollars to erase that obligation?
“When you pray, do you just speak, or do you also listen? your Savior said, ‘Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.’ (Rev. 3:20Rev. 3:20.)
“The promise is made to everyone. There is no discrimination, no favored few. But the Lord has not promised to crash the door. He stands and knocks. If we do not listen, He will not sup with us nor give answer to our prayers. Do you know how to listen, grasp, interpret, understand? The Lord stands knocking. He never retreats. But He will never force himself upon us.” (October 11, 1961, BYU Speeches of the Year, 1961, p. 6.)
Spencer W. Kimball
TWO KINDS OF PRAYER: Prayer states one’s relationship with God. The way we pray reveals that relationship. The Pharisee prays as a character who “prays to himself” or “with reference to himself.” What he spells out is quite true: his observance of the Law goes beyond the legal requirements. But his prayer has been transformed into boasting. He has become full of himself that he seems not to need God anymore. Moreover, he assumes the role of judge and despises others. He reminds God of the deficiency of the tax collector, in case God has not noticed.
In contrast to the prayer of the puffed-up Pharisee, that of the tax collector is of utter simplicity and truth. Indeed he is a sinner. Indeed he needs God’s gift of righteousness because he has none of his own. In praying to God to have mercy on him, he asks God to give him what God “owes” him: mercy and forgiveness.
At the end of the story, the tax collector is the one justified by God, that is, God has placed him in right relationship with God. The Pharisee needed nothing and asked for nothing; he received nothing. The tax collector, by contrast, recognized he needed God’s gift of righteousness, and so he received it.
Source: 365 Days with the Lord